Thank you?

[dove95.livejournal.com]

Hey everyone!

I was just curious. Now, I know I've granted a slew of wishes to people, and that mine have been granted too. I've tried to thank everyone who gave me something tangible or intangible.

My question is a sorts of etiquette.

While we granted these wishes with "no strings attached," have you felt slightly disappointed or lost some of the inclination to grant as many wishes as you did before, if you haven't received some sort of recognition or thank you for granting a wish?

I certainly don't mean this as a pessimistic post. I'm just curious to see what other people think about this issue, or if I'm "wrong" to be feeling this way?

Comments

[cupcakeshoes.livejournal.com]

personally, i have felt pretty disappointed. i sent out probably 5 gifts at christmas and only received thanks for one or two of them. i also received nothing myself, which was disappointing.
i don't feel inclined to do as much this holidays, but we'll see how i feel then.
i still love the community though, think it's a great idea. just somewhat disappointed.

[dove95.livejournal.com]

Yes, yes, I love the community too! I've met a lot of cool people through it, and the "gifts" that I have received were greatly appreciated.

I just wish mostly that I would've heard something about it being received.

[glowing-dragon.livejournal.com]

I received thanks for some of the postcards and such that I sent out, and managed to at least get some things, which I thanked people for!

But yes, I'm a bit disappointed. We'll see what happens in nine months or so when this all rolls around again.

Good idea on the community, though!

[divabat.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't get offended; at the most, I'd just like to know if the gift got there fine. If there's no response, I just put it down to procrastination. (Because I'm a majo procrastinator and haven't got around to my thank-yous yet, oops. o_O)

[dove95.livejournal.com]

at the most, I'd just like to know if the gift got there fine.

That's exactly what I'm thinking too. I hope that it found them well in any event.

[but_can_i_be_trusted]

Slightly disappointed, yes. But I wasn't able to spend money on anything, due to limited funds. I could only do recommendations and hugz and joke requests. Something that intangible probably isn't going to get the recognition that a CD or a video would get.

[alchemia.livejournal.com]

I didn't expect replies/thank you's, I'm happy with whow things went as far as what I gave and what I got- like it was advertised- it was no strings attatched, and they were gifts.

The only thing I was a little upset about, was not knowing if certain thigns arrived- but I think next time, I'll write a request inside the package to please let me know/post a LJ message. I sent soem thigns anonymous, so I was just watchign people's LJ's looking for a "Oh, today in the mail i got:____" not for any formal thank yous or credit.

[dove95.livejournal.com]

The thing is is that some people friends-lock their LJs, and if they don't for that particular LJ, I granted a good chunk of LJ wishes that it's been hard for me to go back.

Maybe they have thanked me, and they did thank me there. I guess it's worth checking out.

[lea724.livejournal.com]

Yep, I'm disappointed. I admit I didn't send out very many gifts, but I granted some wishes from people who wanted Amazon.com stuff. Never heard anything from some of those people about having received their gifts, even though I received the confirmation from Amazon that they were shipped.

:(

[dove95.livejournal.com]

Awww, I'm sorry that happened to you.

Overall, it was good experience for me in the receiving end. And, most people did thank me . . . it was just the ones that I sort of went out of my way to personalize (because I did!), a little note in my LJ of "hey, got your gift" would've sufficed.

*shrug* We'll see how it goes this year.

[birdiebirdie.livejournal.com]

I've not granted any wishes in this community, but in my two others. I usually only grant a wish if I have the item or skill already and don't usually go out and buy things for people I don't know. So I'm usually just happy my old and disused things have a new home. But I definately checked my LJ each and every day looking for the little notes saying, "I got it, Thanks!" And most did so right away. That's nice. The few that didn't were maybe out of town. I ship UPS, so I know when they got there and that they were signed for.

I'm still looking for wishes to grant, but many of the people in this community are usually asking for things on Amazon and I've not found anything yet that I already ahve to give.

I'm a member at holidaywishlist and _wishlist_ and this one. I figure it's a good place to find good homes for my old CD's books, stickers, scarves and whatnot. Hopefully people take the second or two to make a small effort of thanks.

[greenwitch.livejournal.com]

When the meme started, so many people were doing this truly in the spirit of the holidays, asking for materalistic thigns as well as non-materialistic... and the idea was that you wished for these things, but had no guaruntees that they'd be granted, and the community was created so people could share. But as the time went on, the community started to get filled with "I want" lists, with people asking for all materialistic things, some big things, asking for way more than 10 itmes, and well... it's not technically supposed to be a gift swap or a "gimme gimme!" fest where it's ask-and-ye-shall-recieve...

I suppose that explains my opinion on those people who ask for everything and send nothing in return, and vice versa. But that doesn't excuse people for not thanking those who did send them gifts.

Hopefully we'll have a better plan of how to moderate this next time around...

[dove95.livejournal.com]

Well, what I annoyed me a bit was that any time someone posted a thank you, they'd then repost a link their wishlist. I'm like, hello? Isn't that a bit rude?

Heck, I even posted a list of stuff I wanted to GIVE! :)

I think there should be some sort of gift reciept we do somehow, but I don't know how that can be done. *shrug*

You want to know what's funny? I kept a list of every LJ person I was sending cards/gifts to in my LJ . . . I then just recently found one that I never heard whether she got it or not. I saw she thank me in her LJ, but then when I told her that I didn't even know about her getting it, I still have yet to her anything personally back from her. Weird.

[greenwitch.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that was rather rude...

I just feel so bad that I got so busy during the holidays that I was only able to give out like 2 or 3 things even though I had the capacity to do more :-(

That is weird...

Everyone should definately send thanks and acknowledgement. To not is just... unnacceptable, really.

[pigwithwings11.livejournal.com]

i absolutely loved this whoel thing, and i was very happy with the way things turned out. i did grant a few wishes, and never knew if they got thereO.o it is annoying to not know, cause you don't even know if you sent it out right then, and procrastination..yeah i can see that, but if you can take the time to write out a wish list but don't have the tiem to thank people, i think it is kinda rude. i thanked everyone who sent me things- at least those who i knew who they were.
the thign i had the most trouble with, was when i left a comment on a wish list that said i coudl grant a wish if they would just email me, and i woudl get an email with nothing but an address, and i had no idea ( because i did so many) what i promised to send, and they didn't bother to say thank you. it seems kinda selfish, it makes it seem as though those people were only interested in the getting and not at all concerned with the idea behind it or even thought of the trouble the senders go through, even for thigns without any monetary value.. well those are my thoughts

[sarahbella84.livejournal.com]

exactly! it takes 2 seconds to jump on LJ & just type "thank you" (whether you know who sent your gift or not).

[mystic_notions]

I was slightly disappointed in people doing this. I didn't have a lot of funds this year so I could only send out cards and music. Only a couple of people even let me know they got the cards and postcards. I would have liked to know that they at least received them. But what hurt, was people contacting me and saying they would send me a card or email me MP3s and none of them did.
I was disappointed that people would promise things and then back out. Not one of the people contacted me and said they would be unable to come through. I would have understood if they stretched themselves too thin and just let me know.

[dove95.livejournal.com]

I did try to hold up wishes I planned on granting, such as mixed CDs, but for those people . . . I still sent a card, apologizing about the CD.

I dunno. I probably spent close to $100 ($50 on tangible gifts; $50 on postage, cards, etc). I didn't mind spending it, it's just that a little note back would've been nice. And, it's not like they couldn't just leave a note in my LJ cuz I signed the card with my LJ name.

*shrug*

[katzk.livejournal.com]

Well, I for one am not disappointed in materialistic part. I managed to have gotten some really amazing and big things, like books. And what I sent was mostly cards. But that's what I had, and I sent a lot of cards. I hope they were received. Only a few people said they did receive something from me. Maybe they thanked me in their journals, I don't know, I don't watch them! But when someone comes to my journal and thanks me - ah, it feels great!

That's what it's all about, don't ever forget to thank people who did something for you. In this community and in life. They may say they just do it "for the spirit", "with no strings attached", but a little thank you will make this world happier. They made your day, why don't you make theirs with just these two words, Thank You.

[dove95.livejournal.com]

well, you and i did well for each other too! The best part is that we didn't really spend much money.

The best part of the community so far, for me, has been the nice people I've befriended from it. That's worth more than any thanks.

But it does leave me hesitant to spend the amount of personal attention I spent with each card. Like I told you before, I looked for common interests to leave a witty comment for each card.

[katzk.livejournal.com]

I also got rid of a very unwanted mix CD! I was happy to, I never can throw CDs away, but maybe that person will like it, who knows!

I friended 3 people from the community.. Including you. One is already defriended, we had like nothing in common, I dunno why she friended me in the first place. :) But it's interesting to take a peek in someone else's life, even shortly.

I still receive things send via this comm! I take it as a bonus - I had more than enough candy for Christmas, and now it's even more welcome. :P

Btw, did I tell you how I enjoy the mags you sent me? I found quite some interesting articles and pictures, including a huge Six Feet Under ad! And, it's always nice to read in English. :)

[dove95.livejournal.com]

I'm sooo glad that you are enjoying the mags! It makes worth holding onto those a little longer worth it.

I've got recent ones with Johnny Carson's death, Oscar talks, etc if you want any more. I have to take a look through them more thoroughly, but I could give you another list to pick from . . . that is if you want :)

[katzk.livejournal.com]

Hee, anytime! ;D Movies are my passion, so anything to do with movies I'll take gladly. Hm, I don't know who Johnny Carson is.. OK, Google helps. I didn't know him.

[sarahbella84.livejournal.com]

i also noticed that some ppl seemed to sign-up for a LJ account & immediately post their big wish list w/ out even having one post in their personal journal!

now that's taking advantage. very unfortunate.

overall, i guess the consensus is more communication next time around? i know it bugs me when i'm not sure if something i sent arrived at its proper destination.

holiday_wishes was definitely a positive experience for me though. :)

[dove95.livejournal.com]

i also noticed that some ppl seemed to sign-up for a LJ account & immediately post their big wish list w/ out even having one post in their personal journal!

That's sooo wrong and selfish! Hopefully this year it will go a bit smoother.

But yes, this comm has definitely been a positive one for me too. Lots of befriending :)

[greenwitch.livejournal.com]

i also noticed that some ppl seemed to sign-up for a LJ account & immediately post their big wish list w/ out even having one post in their personal journal!

I apologise for that. If I had been paying better attention, I would not have let those posts through. Unfortunately the end of last semester nearly killed me with the amount of work, and I had taken a back seat with the moderation.

Next year, there will definately be more communication and better management, I give you my word.

[sarahbella84.livejournal.com]

not your fault! you can't screen everything in such a big community.